It's Okay to Say ‘No’: Protecting Your Energy as a Performer
As performers, we often hear the mantra, "Say yes!" Say yes to opportunities, to auditions, to every job, and to every skill. And while a positive mindset can open doors, it’s equally important to know when and how to say "no." Sometimes, choosing to decline an opportunity isn’t just okay—it’s necessary for your growth and well-being.
Why Saying ‘No’ Matters
Saying "no" can feel taboo, especially in the performance industry, where we’re told to be grateful for every chance that comes our way. But not every opportunity aligns with your goals, values, or capacity. The reality is, saying "no" is sometimes a better option than overcommitting and delivering less than your best.
As performers, our body is our instrument, and maintaining our mental, physical, and emotional well-being is essential. If you’re asked to take on a job that will strain you or steer your career off course, it’s not only okay but necessary to say "no." Prioritizing your happiness, energy, and focus ensures you stay aligned with your passion.
When to Say ‘No’
Some months, you might have downtime. Others, you’ll feel overwhelmed and overbooked. During those high-pressure times, take a moment to evaluate whether taking on more will benefit you. If you’re only able to give 5% to a task, consider whether it’s worth your time and energy.
It’s not about being a diva—it’s about running your career like the business it is. Weigh up the value of the opportunity. Will it challenge and excite you? Will it help you grow? Or is it a detour from your goals? Trust that the right opportunities will come at the right time.
Overcoming the Guilt
One of the hardest parts of saying "no" is overcoming the guilt. Whether it’s the fear of letting someone down—be it a casting director, agent, or even yourself—it’s important to reframe your thinking. Saying "no" isn’t about rejection; it’s about choosing what aligns with your values and priorities.
When declining an opportunity, communicate with kindness and gratitude. Thank the person for considering you and explain, if necessary, why it’s not the right fit. If possible, leave the door open for future collaborations. You have every right to say "no" with grace and confidence.
Remember, You’re a Human First
As self-employed artists, we have the unique privilege of choosing our paths, but that comes with the responsibility of knowing where to invest our time and energy. Not every opportunity will be the right fit, and that’s okay. Trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith in your decisions.
Your career is a journey, not a sprint. By learning to say "no," you’re not closing doors—you’re preserving your energy for the opportunities that truly matter.
